My 14 year old cousin has a girlfriend

I visited my family and found out my 14 year old cousin has a girlfriend. Of all my cousins, this cousin is one that reminds me the most of myself. His interests are similar to mine. He is kind of socially awkward. People have suspected me of being on the "autism spectrum", but whatever traits that made people think this of me are even more pronounced in my cousin. His voice is more monotone than mine for example. He is intelligent - he can beat me in chess which is an indication he is more intelligent than me.

I thought these traits would make him incel. But then I found out my cousin at the age of 14 already has a girlfriend! She asked him on a date, and now they are dating! She is attractive too.

Why was he able to get a girlfriend at such a young age, when I am more than double his age and have never dated anyone? The only answer I can think of is that he is white. He is 75% white and 25% Iranian, whereas I am 75% Iranian and 25% white. He has blonde hair and blue eyes and is therefore able to pass as white, hence he fits into white society and has girls interested in him.

That's it. Women don't hate intelligent men. They just hate Indian-looking men like me! The r/K selection theory is a myth. The reality is the white-selection theory! It's no coincidence that Elliot Rodger was half Asian. He was so close to passing as white, but just barely missed the mark and was therefore doomed to involuntary celibacy.  The frustration of being so close to being white but being just barely too ethnic looking to fit in is what drove him to do the shooting.

How are his morals?  The 2 things American women find attractive are stupidity and evil.  Looks is also a small factor, but I don't think race itself matters much.

It's hard to judge someone's morals without knowing them extremely well. He has a gentle demeanor. He plays shooting video games, although Elliot Rodger did too and I consider Elliot Rodger to be moral. The only thing I can think of that might be a sign of immorality is that his parents are very strong believers in the Baha'i "Institute Process"‌, and the Institute Process is religiously a very watered down curriculum so children raised on the Institute Process typically grow up to be atheists. I can't know what he personally believes though.

Another thing is his parents took him out of public school before middle school because he was being bullied and didn't have many friends. Maybe the act of doing this made him less traumatized by socializing than me, so he lacks the extreme introversion that I have. He does seem a little more assertive than me.

As for looks, yes I would say he is good looking. I can't judge my own looks, but my sister is attractive and I would expect for my own looks to be in line with hers. My cousin is as tall as me at 14, indicating he will likely be taller than me, but I am 6'1 which is still above average. I have a skinny ectomorphic frame but so does he.

I think perceived race is really the biggest difference between us. He met his girlfriend at a co-ed sports league his parents put him in.
 I would not be able to meet girls through such venues which are open to the general public, because I am perceived as being from "another culture" due to my race so women from the American general public would avoid me. All the attractive girls who have spoken to me have been in a Baha'i setting. And I could never believe it when it happened because they looked like supermodels whereas in the general public even average and below average looking girls shit on me. Clearly, there is a big discrepancy between how women perceive me in the Baha'i center vs outside of the Baha'i center, and I think the most reasonable explanation is that women in the Baha'i center do not look down on my race, because people of my race were the founders of that culture, so women within that culture do not view my race as being a negative.

Probably just happenstance.

I don't see any correlation between race and being incel.  There are incels of every race.  I was incel and I don't think my race had anything to do with it.

In my previous comment, I forgot to mention status.  I assume status is your advantage in the Baha'i center.

fschmidt wrote

I don't see any correlation between race and being incel.  There are incels of every race.  I was incel and I don't think my race had anything to do with it.

In my previous comment, I forgot to mention status.  I assume status is your advantage in the Baha'i center.

I disagree with this statement as race is a major factor in why I am incel. It’s a very upfront reality to me and I am evaluated differently (with different expectations) because of my race.

I remembered in a previous conversation that you said you didn’t get interest from women in Japan since you look a lot more like the Iranians in Japan more than the blond hair blue eyed German westerner that Asian women are mostly attracted to.