My league

A couple of days ago a new girl joined my workplace, a couple years younger than me. I read the short bio that they emailed about her on her first day and she seemed too good to be true. Her interests are the same as mine, and she is also a church girl. She was in my opinion attractive but had something odd-looking about her face, so I thought maybe I had a chance with her.

Her boss's boss, who is a woman that I know, brought her to my office and introduced her to me. There was no technical reason for me to meet her, so I like to think that she introduced me to her because she saw some possibility of us being together.

First thing I noticed is that after shaking hands with the girl, the girl acted like she immediately wanted to get out of there. She started motioning to walk away, while her boss's boss wanted to keep the conversation going.

Another thing I noticed is that when the girl comes in to work she has started taking a longer path to avoid walking by my office.

I started thinking "maybe after some time she'll come around and see I am a good guy after all, and stop these avoidant behaviors".

Just then, I walked into the kitchen and saw there was this other girl, about her age. But she was significantly less attractive than the other one. She is overweight, with sunken orbital rims, just all around unattractive, and a face that would be difficult to love. If the first girl is a 6/10, then the second girl is a 1/10. When this second girl saw me she started apologizing for blocking the way in a very sweet, friendly, approachable tone of voice.

And then it hit me. For me to have any chance whatsoever with the first girl, she would talk to me like the second girl. So the first girl isn't worth thinking about. The second girl is the girl who I might be able to get if I put in some effort, not the first girl. The second girl is my league.

I have been approached by much more attractive women than either of these at religious celebrations, which demonstrates how much of an impact belonging to a religious community can make. I think I am in reality a 10/10. But without a good religious community to provide me with a consistent stream of attractive young women, I am reduced to a 1/10.

Very feigned post that tries hard to drive home the religion point in a non sequitur manner. Lame.

Since it will take you forever to get confidence with approaching females, the idea in your case is to become a religious guru and have them approach you. You could take this online guru's advice. For many men his situation is a pipe dream, but he and maybe you can pull it off.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8kI3oUJUgTE

What he says about not chasing a girl, while also being present in a girl's life who you are interested in seems contradictory to me. I am afraid of even saying "hi" to a girl because she would interpret this as being an advance on her. And the truth is that she would be right in assuming this because I would not say hi to someone unless I had some interest in them, and in the case of a young woman it would be sexual or romantic interest. I guess women want men to be indiscriminately "present" to all people they meet not selectively present. You have to take the extraverted "shotgun" approach of being "present" to everyone, not selectively present to the girl you are interested in. That's the only way you can say that you are not "chasing" a girl.